Dating Disasters That Make Me (Really) Appreciate 10+ Years With Ledcat

Pittsburgh Lesbian Dating

Ah, romance. I think my most amusing first date was with Patrick. We were set up by his sister-in-law. He invited me to go see the Corvette Museum in Bowling Green, KY (I lived in KY at the time.) I thought that was an interesting choice so I agreed. It was a 45 minute drive […]

Why I Like to Organize Drives and Collections

The first time I organized a collection, I promised college students a pizza party if they gathered the most recyclable cans in their common area. The year was 1992. I didn’t anticipate the creativity of freshmen male students who apparently ransacked all sorts of nearby residential communities. Thankfully, the Residential Director took pity on me […]

Fish Fry Review: Judah Fellowship Christian Church (Central Northside)

Pittsburgh Fish Fry

Random review of #fishburgh adventures during Lent. Find a fish fry on this Google maps collection. You can also follow them on Facebook and find tons of reviews and suggestions. Name: Judah Fellowship Christian Church Date: Friday, April 11, 2014 Time We Ate: 5:30 PM Location: Central Northside (120 Parkhurst Street 15212) We selected Judah Fellowship because they specifically […]

Who Was the Cathy of Cathy’s Closet?

Cathy Cairns

Many of you knew Cathy Cairns. She was a long-time activist and social worker who tackled all sorts of challenges. She worked to bring affordable housing to the Hill District and Larimer. She brought support for women who experience domestic violence to the Beaver County District Attorny’s Office. She brought job training and social services […]

The Aunts Come Bearing Mr. Bacon and Monsieur Tofu

Pittsburgh Lesbian

After a long day at work or school, what are your favorite ways to wind down and decompress? This photo is from July 2012.   This is my nephew EM (his parents prefer not to use his name online) who was about 9 months in this photo I think. He and I hung out in […]

The Man Always Wins

Pittsburgh Lesbian

Tell us about a time when you fought authority and took a stand against “the man.” Did you win? I usually do not win. And this is why I blog more about soap operas and less about local politics. I stood up to Dan Onorato for misleading people about his LGBTQ voting record and not […]

Mock: Define yourself before other people do it for you

Define yourself, Janet Mock said Tuesday night, because if you don’t, other people will define you—and they will “chew you up and spit you out.” In a wide-ranging discussion with about 200 students, faculty and community members at Carnegie Mellon University, Mock said her strong sense of self has helped her endure her time in […]

The Art and Science of Unmaking Friends

Pittsburgh friends

Do you find it easy to make new friends? Tell us how you’ve mastered the art of befriending a new person. The fastest way in the world to shed yourself of a friend is to tell them the truth – the truth about your diagnosis, the truth about your needs and expectations, the truth about […]

If You Can’t Afford Tampons, What Do You Do?

Cathy's Closet Sister Supplies

This is a problem that I never thought about until I was 25 years old. While my family had financial struggles, I never lacked the items most women take for granted – pads and tampons. At 25, I met Shirley who gently educated me on the impact of poverty on our womanly ways. I learned […]

Bring me some GLEE

If you’re feeling blah, what is the one thing you do that you can count on to put a smile on your face? Interesting timing, question maker in the sky. I’m feeling blah. My poor elderly kitty isn’t doing so well. I don’t think I’m a very good crowdfundraiser at all. And I can’t seem […]