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View Article  Ellen and Portia to have child?

We are going to try and break some new ground in the coming weeks. 

The fascinating world of celebrity reproduction:

Comedian Ellen DeGeneres and partner Portia de Rossi will undergo fertility treatment to start their own family, according to tabloid reports.

The TV personality wed actress de Rossi last year, and the couple is allegedly keen to settle down and have kids.

DeGeneres recently revealed they were looking to step away from the spotlight and live the quiet life on a farm, once her U.S. talk show contract ends in 2010.

Too bad they aren't planning to adopt.  I'll go ahead and say it ... undergoing IVF 10 times is pretty selfish. Ah well ...

View Article  Mayor's Office Still Mum on Advisory Committee; Chief Executive's Office Still Mum on Virtual Town Hall

You recall that our Mayor was going to set up a LGBT Advisory Council?  Nominations were due January 15, 2009.  I had a few questions which his staff refused to answer, in spite of promises otherwise from spokeswoman Joanna Doven and Deputy Chief of Staff Kristen Baginski.

Last Friday, I contacted Ms. Doven asking her for the answers she promised me over two months ago.  This was her response:

Sue:

The woman in charge of this from our office is out until Tuesday. I will check in with her then and get back to you.

Joanna

Joanna Doven

Press Secretary

Office of Mayor Luke Ravenstahl

414 Grant St. Pittsburgh, PA 15219

412-255-2694

(cell) 412-475-2387

joanna.doven@city.pittsburgh.pa.us

http://www.city.pittsburgh.pa.us

I certainly hope her coworker is feeling better and back to work soon.  It is interesting that Ms. Baginski promised to get me the information I needed, then punted me to Ms. Doven who promised to get me the information I needed, then punted to the Mayor's trip out of town.  Now Ms. Doven is punting back to Ms. Baginski. 

Anyone want to bet on my getting any actual answer to a single question?  I'm putting my money on "we are moving forward on this project" as the official response. 

However, at least the Mayor's office RESPONDS, however unsatisfactorily.  The County Chief Executive did not address any of the LGBT related questions submitted to his virtual town hall meeting.  Then we each received email messages informing us that we would receive a detailed response in the near future.  Folks who asked other types of questions received answers (such as Bram from The Pittsburgh Comet). 

Dear Ms. Kerr:

 Thank you for your email.  We appreciate your interest in the cyber town hall meeting.  While the County Executive was not able to answer every question due to time constraints, we did receive your question and will send a response in the coming days.

 If you were not able to join us, this morning the cyber town hall meeting will be archived on the County?s web site.

 Thank you again for contacting our office and for submitting your question.

 Sincerely,

 Megan Dardanell

Office of the County Executive

Before the most recent town hall meeting, I contacted his office again pointing out that I was still waiting on a response and resubmitting my question.  No response.  So I contacted my County Councilwoman, Amanda Green, expressing my concerns that the Chief Executive was ignoring his constituent.  She urged me to contact his office and that she would be in touch with them as well about my concerns.

So there you have it.  I would be overly bold to suggest they are just stonewalling moi as others who submitted related questions to the County were also ignored.  They are really stonewalling our entire community  ... double entendre fully intended. 

It is very hard to believe that we are going to make progress on a local level if our two executive leaders refuse to answer simple questions about LGBT issues.  I can see the Mayor's reluctance to comment as two of his three gay advisors are facing potential criminal charges related to accusations that they received administrative favors in return for campaign contributions to the Mayor.  That shouldn't mean the entire community loses a potential resource.  In fact, all the more reason to appoint other people to the council, perhaps?  

Chief Executive Onorato has no legs to stand on.  He won't publicly comment on LGBT issues.  Remember that when he announces his bid for Governor and starts showing up at public events where he can't be questioned.  That proved successful for Luke to convince tons of people he is gay friendly, in spite of publicly commenting that he opposes civil unions.  Let try not to be so easily deluded this time around.

Why bring this up?  Well, some recent commenters have got me thinking that we have a lot of unfinished local LGBT business.  That's actually rather true.  I've had some sense of where things stand, but it has all been off the record and I actually think that it is unfair to just ask all of you to start focusing on other issues without giving some update or perhaps closure to these issues.  The elected officials aren't going to do it and the LGBT advocates aren't going to do it. And these are the same people asking you to turn your attention, time and donations in new directions. 

Don't get me wrong.  I think statewide issues are incredibly important and clearly deserve our support.  However, is it realistic to think that we can have any impact statewide when we are in such gridlock locally?  Is it in our best interests to divest resources from these local efforts and send them to Harrisburg?  If nothing else, we have upcoming elections that could have a more immediate impact on our lives so perhaps we should focus on those?

After reading the comments, I agree that we are being pulled in a lot of directions and I'd also like to see just one thing get finished.  One thing.  I understand that leaving an ordinance in committee is better than having it defeated by bringing it to vote.  I understand that a domestic partner registry is a symbol, not a practical tool.  But I would argue that both of these situations allow Dan Onorato and Luke Ravenstahl to get some LGBT credibility without actually doing anything practical.  And that's not okay. 

Here's what I'd like to see, in no particular order.

1.  Mayor Ravenstahl instruct the Department of Personnel to contact City Employees informing them of the Domestic Partner Registry, allowing us to automatically transfer if we choose and describing how it benefits us to do so.

2.  Megan Dardenell from the Chief Executive Office send the promised answers to county residents who submitted LGBT related questions to the town hall meetings.

3.  Local LGBT advocates distribute talking points for the County Ordinance, including reasons why gender expression should be included in the final version.  That's a complicated issue and we need some education ourselves to be effective advocates.

4.  The Mayor update the community on his Council in a public manner, not via his unofficial gay spokespersons.  I don't want to be updated, I want you to be updated.

5.  Mayor Luke Ravenstahl respond to the Steel City Stonewall Questionnaire for this election cycle. 

6.  Steel City Stonewall drop the "highly recommends" information from its endorsement list so that the endorsement carries more value. 

Thank you, readers and commenters, for pointing out what kinds of issues mean something to you.  You've really given me some food for thought.  It isn't popular thought with local organizations as per the comments, but it is probably progress that you are contemplating and commenting on these issues.  I think my platform might move you to take action.  I could be wrong.  I'm willing to take that chance.

So while I do think you should pay attention to the statewide issues, I would urge you to also hold your local officials and local LGBT advocates accountable for our currently very full plates.  Otherwise, we are going to end up with Governor Onorato and Chief Executive Ravenstahl making not a single meaningful action on real LGBT issues.  Statewide legislation would mean a lot less if two out of three top politicians aren't invested in our community.

I would welcome some meaningful dialogue on how we can prevent this. 

I mean, seriously, do we really want to be the advocacy generation that can list a domestic registry with six participants as our accomplishment for this region?  I think we can do better, but we need better organizing, more transparency and more resources dedicated to Western Pennsylvania.  Good old fashioned Pittsburgh politics isn't getting us very far. 

View Article  Family Values in Allegheny County Council: Councilman Chuck McCullough Arrested

Breaking news from the PG about one of the opponents of the HRC ordinance. 

Allegheny County Councilman Charles McCullough has been arrested and he is awaiting arraignment today on nearly two dozen counts following an investigation last year of his handling of an elderly widow's trust funds.

A county grand jury today handed up a 54-page presentment that alleges Mr. McCullough, an attorney, and his sister, Kathleen A. McCullough, bilked money from the $14.5 million trust fund of an Upper St. Clair widow, Shirley H. Jordan, 90.

The investigation began after an article appeared in the Post-Gazette in April 2007 in which Mrs. Jordan denied that she donated $10,000 to each of four political candidates the year before, according to an affidavit that accompanied the arrests of Mr. McCullough and his sister.

The affidavit said Kathleen McCullough had been paid "the exorbitant rate of $60 per hour to be a companion," to Mrs. Jordan. Ms. McCullough was paid more than $4,500 as Mrs. Jordan's companion, the affidavit said.

This is the hypocrisy that sickens me, especially after reading the Christian-laced bigotry and hatred in the testimony record from January 15, 2009.  The guy from Blumengarten Flowers doesn't want US near his kids, but would he want Councilman McCullough near his elderly parents?  No one asks that question. 

I find this especially disgusting because I've been working to get my own grandmother services so she doesn't have to go into a nursing home, especially after the stories broke about Kane Glen-Hazel and Montefiore patients dying on the rooftop. It is frightening and the process to avoid this scenario is arduous and frustrating.  I've been at it for more than six months and we still have two more hurdles to overcome.  The good people who do the attendant care make probably $9.00/hour and we've had some wonderful, wonderful people come into her home.  The idea that he would pay his own sister $60 for companion care AND get to vote on the budget that sets the salary for the Kane nursing home staff makes me throw up a little in my own mouth. 

Will he resign? 

 

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View Article  Speaking of LGBTQ Advocacy

Today, I had the pleasure of addressing a class of MSW students at the University of Pittsburgh.  The class focuses on policy and I used my work in the LGBTQ community to illustrate how advocacy can drive real social change.  It was an interesting experience.  Another speaker works for local government and a third is a private consultant on governmental affairs.  Three very different perspectives.

The panel gave me the luxury of revisiting some of my older posts as I searched for good examples of letters to the editors of local papers (and accompanying commentary I could distrbute to a classroom).  I also went back to the March 2008 Blog for Equality campaign which I think included 14 local bloggers and was the brainchild of local blogger, Bram from The Pittsburgh Comet.  Hard to believe it was just one year ago we were gearing off to beat back a Marriage Amendment.  Our Allegheny County Human Rights Ordinance may be stuck in committee, but at least we are focused on creating positive legislation instead of simply warding off another attack.  That's progress.

My presentation today focused on building relationships with and educating our elected officials, the media and the general public.  I discussed some fundamentals of lobbying and media relations, but I hope my key point was clear -- we must come out of our closets to create real social change.  We must come out as members of the LGBTQ community and as family and friends of the LGBTQ community.  I was reminded briefly today of the price of being out and, while regretable, we cannot allow bigotry to stand in the way of progress. 

Western Pennsylvania faces many challenges in the struggle to organize for this type of social change.  Someone asked me this morning why we cannot seem to get our act together and I just don't have an answer.  I have to take some ownership for my part in the breakdown because my patience has been wearing more and more thin as the years roll by.  I'm weary of the same broken promises and unfullfilled plans.  I'm also tired of being scapegoated for having an opinion that doesn't conform to organizational expectations.  Finally, there is just the simple exhaustion of defending systems and structures that aren't working. 

It is too tempting to wallow in self-pity and despair.  I still believe the fight is worth, well, the fight.  I still believe you deserve to know what is really happening behind the scenes so you can make informed decisions about how to join the fight.  And I still believe that I have the right to express my own opinion, not the responsibility to be the mouthpiece for others. 

It would be great to see some other LGBT bloggers begin to emerge.  For those of you wanting to do something for the community, give blogging some consideration.  You are your own boss.  You pick your agenda.  You'll get readers simply because there aren't many of doing it.  Blog a little each day and folks will come back to read what you have to say.  You might even change some minds.  NetRoots Nation is coming to town in August (national blogging convention) and I'm working with the LGBT Blogging Initiative and the LGBT Blogging Caucus to organize the welcome reception.  It promises to be a doozy.  I actually feel kind of guilty that my main queer activity for the coming months will be a party instead of "real" advocacy, but maybe the party will inspire some new people to start blogging. 

Here's hoping. 

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View Article  oh those crazy wingnuts and their tribune review

this caught my eye last week ... the tribune review printed an interview with Ben Johnson, author of "57 Varieties of Radical Causes: Teresa Heinz Kerry's Charitable Giving" and the forthcoming booklet "Teresa Heinz Kerry's Radical Gifts"

see a theme? 

it is a ridiculous pandering interview, but here's how Teresa is advancing the gay agenda:

Q: You say the Heinz Endowments have been responsible for a wide variety of radical or offensive "art." What's an example of that?

A: The most outrageous example of this would be the 2006 Pittsburgh International Lesbian and Gay Film Festival, which screened not one but two films that glorified same-sex statutory rape. One was "Loving Annabelle," which is a film about a Catholic school teacher who has sexual intercourse with one of her underage students. The other one is called "Whole New Thing," which is about a 13-year-old who was formerly homeschooled, raised by hippies, who tries to seduce his gay teacher in Nova Scotia. Both of them present the sex as something the student is actively pursuing and in their own terms justifying and glorifying what's going on. I think that's well beyond the pale.

Q: If someone says, "OK, so Teresa Heinz spent $10,000 or whatever on this film festival. She's basically wasting her money, but is it really hurting anything ?- and who cares?" What's your response to that?

A: I think anytime that we glorify pedophilia that feeds into the victimization of children. Anyone who does that should be ashamed of themselves. They are participating in the glorification of statutory rape. That is one of the most offensive things any human being can do. The fact that her money helped finance this and justify it to a subsection of your readers in Pittsburgh is absolutely indefensible and execrable.

Huh?  Well, yeah, the president of the Heinz Endowments didn't take too kindly to being identified as a funder of pedophilia. 

One example was Johnson's accusation that The Heinz Endowments fund activities "justifying pedophilia; screening films that are explicitly pornographic."

In these sensationalistic references to the Pittsburgh Lesbian and Gay Film Festival, which has been running in this city for 23 years, Johnson manages to leave out other funders, including the Pittsburgh Foundation, the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center, the McGuire Woods law firm and the Greater Pittsburgh Arts Council, which the Richard King Mellon Foundation has funded -- hardly a group that would fund "pedophilic and pornographic projects."

Get the connection?  If you follow the money -- all the money, not just Teresa's --- you get to the Mellon fortune.  Hmmm. Nice riposte.  What kind of zealot spends their time writing a booklet about this topic?  Not enough material for an actual book, but just enough to distort the picture and feed into the maniacal fanaticism of Pittsburgh's wingnut contingent.  In the same interview, John characterizes the Three Rivers Community Fund as a bastion of Pittsburgh's left wing radical agenda.  Priceless.

Loving Annabelle -- here's the AfterEllen review if you are curious.  Here's one for Whole New Thing.   I have not seen either movie and it appears that they are explorations of the typical adolescent/teacher crush convoluted by the process of coming out (for the adults, too).  I'm not justifying teacher sleeping with the student, but I imagine that the added layer of cultural homophobia makes for an interesting series of questions about the adults.  Frankly, the teacher student issue freaks me out so I probably wouldn't see the movies, no matter how arty they are.  But I wouldn't characterize them as pedophilia based on a few paragraphs.  I sure wouldn't write a booklet about it.  I might twist it to fit my agenda, but hey that's just me.

This is my favorite sentence. Both of them present the sex as something the student is actively pursuing and in their own terms justifying and glorifying what's going on.

Students pursuing sex!  You mean like saddlebacking?  Ha!

View Article  Rock the Dome: Pennsylvania Equality Rally -- Save the Date!
The topic is LGBT equality. The date is March 17, 2009.  Buses will depart Pittsburgh around 7:30 AM and return by 8:00 PM.  Stay tuned for more details, but so far you've got a mini-advocacy training, free lunch, rally and a chance to meet with your state elected officials.  Take a day off, bring the kids and stay tuned for more details.
View Article  Our O. Henry Valentine's Day

Maybe it is a stretch, but when we exchanged valentine's gifts we discovered that our mutual fondness for K.S. Kennedy Floral had led to an awesome moment .... Ledcat bought me flowers and I bought her fancy vase filled with candy.  She didn't cut off her hair and I didn't sell my watch or die of pneumonia from painting, but it was like a non-tragic O. Henry story of our very own. 

And Kerry was like the puppet master who knew the whole story ... ha ha.

Actually, our holiday was low key which is always nice.  We went out to lunch at the Union Grill in Oakland and then for our traditional Valentine's walk through Phipp's Conservatory. They have a lovely exhibit about the Amazon Headwaters which was very interesting. Ledcat thought they needed some wildlife to make it more interactive. I always enjoy the bonsai.  Plus, the other tourists are always good for some entertainment.  It can be a little frustrating when people are oblivious to the crowd backed up on the narrow path behind them while they take 72 pictures of one particular view, but it wasn't so bad yesterday. 

Last night, we stayed in and tried to watch "Margot at the Wedding" which was just awful.  I refused to be that depressed so I turned it off and we read instead.  Oh, we did have cupcakes from Giant Eagle decorated with pink sprinkles.  That was festive! 

I think the best part of Valentine's Day is that we have a ritual we've kept for three years. Our Christmas rituals were shot to hell this year by unforeseen circumstance, but since Vday involves no one else we seem to be doing okay.  The flowers are pretty and the candy is tasty, but the walk through Phipp's together is where the real romance happens.  :-) 

Hope you had a lovely day, too. 

 

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