This is ‘My List of Desires’ instead of ‘My Bucket List’ Because Desire is a Better Focus Than Death

A list? So we open up a quarrelBetween the present and the pastWe only sacrifice the futureIt’s the bitterness that lasts So don’t yield to the fortunesYou sometimes see as fateIt may have a new perspectiveOn a different dayAnd if you don’t give up, and don’t give inYou may just be okay Living Years, Mike […]

Philly Gay News Names This Blogger One of the Most Influential LGBTQ+ Leaders in Pennsylvania

Typically, a post like this would begin ‘I’m honored’ or ‘I’m humbled’ or even ‘So grateful.’ Not meaningless statements, but not always sufficient. You know? Okay, to be fair, ‘Blessed’ would be neither meaningful nor sufficient. This pioneer rejects trite terms. A few weeks ago, I had been named to the list of the 48 […]

Is Our Bond Strong Enough to Navigate Abandonment?

Every time I call my friend Nikki, I ask “Are you still coming on Saturday?” referencing the (back)yardsale. She softly responds “Yes, I am. It’s okay to ask and I will say yes each time you ask because I understand what you are really asking me.” Please don’t abandon me. That’s what I’m asking. I […]

This is that blog post; I am a Journalist

Live Blogging

“I am a blogger,” I offer in lieu of the J word – a fusion of activism, reactivism, and news. The distinction seems important. I rarely stop to examine the accuracy of my clause because of the intensity I feel my cause. See, a journalist wouldn’t write that sentence, correct? “I am not a journalist,” […]

I’m the albatross. I swept in at the rescue.

Update – the Albatross Next week will mark one year since I was wrongly involuntarily civilly committed, had the locks changed to my home of 18+ years, and was officially homeless for 196 days. Just prior to those events, negligent medication management had left me toxic with something akin to serotonin syndrome. Just prior to […]

This Is How I’m Keeping Lesbian Blogging Alive According to Autostraddle

Autostraddle profile Sue Kerr

I am so thrilled to have been profiled by the lesbian media site Autostraddle, especially by a Pittsburgh based journalist. Her blog is a living archive of nearly 20 years of LGBTQ history and struggle and culture and joy. It’s a place where the memories of the people who’ve had their lives cut short by […]

What is the Key to My Returning Home After Six Months? A House (re)Warming Party and I Need Your Help

House key

I’m going home. On Sunday, to be precise. It took more than six months, a lot of lawyers, and more to get myself home to my cats. This is the part where I once again ask for help. I will be moving into the spare bedroom and creating a little living/lounge area in a part […]

The End of My Year 2023 By the Numbers

It has been 127 days since I was involuntarily removed from my home of 18+ years – in handcuffs under false pretext using an invalid warrant. That’s one third of 2023. One entire third of my year. Gone. Every single one of those day, I have focused on two things: recovering from the traumas and […]

The Year Without a Birthday Card

Tomorrow, I’ll celebrate my birthday – I’m turning 53. No Birthday Cards This Year It dawned on me yesterday that I had not received a birthday card. Then it sunk in that the people who sent me cards each year have opted out of my life this year – my wife, her mother, and a […]

It’s Been 36 Days And I’m Still Fighting Back

Pgh Lesbian Correspondents

Good morning, my friends and readers. First, I am still safe with friends. They are feeding a rotating array of vegetarian foods – soup, pasta, even a tofurkey dinner. I’ve only had meat 2 times. To be fair, it is easier to eat vegetarian when other people are preparing the food. But I feel physically […]