Mock: Define yourself before other people do it for you

Define yourself, Janet Mock said Tuesday night, because if you don’t, other people will define you—and they will “chew you up and spit you out.” In a wide-ranging discussion with about 200 students, faculty and community members at Carnegie Mellon University, Mock said her strong sense of self has helped her endure her time in […]

The Art and Science of Unmaking Friends

Pittsburgh friends

Do you find it easy to make new friends? Tell us how you’ve mastered the art of befriending a new person. The fastest way in the world to shed yourself of a friend is to tell them the truth – the truth about your diagnosis, the truth about your needs and expectations, the truth about […]

Bring me some GLEE

If you’re feeling blah, what is the one thing you do that you can count on to put a smile on your face? Interesting timing, question maker in the sky. I’m feeling blah. My poor elderly kitty isn’t doing so well. I don’t think I’m a very good crowdfundraiser at all. And I can’t seem […]

10 Things You Can’t Buy With Food Stamps

Food Stamps

My latest piece published on Huffington Post in the “Gay Voices” section …

Please Don’t Call Me A Writer

Pittsburgh Lesbian

I was not a kid who kept a journal or scribbled or longed to be a reporter. I was not a particularly strong writer until I started the graduate program in political philosophy at LSU where I was required to write – constantly. I was also required to read some pretty amazing writing. Somehow that […]

The View From the Back Window

Pittsburgh

Look out your back window or door — describe what you see, as if you were trying to convey the scene to someone from another country or planet. Our backyard gives off the vibe of spring wrestling with old man winter to control the scenery. There’s enough green grass (weeds) to give the illusion that […]

Judah Fellowship Christian Church Invited This Lesbian & You to Their Fish Fry

Pittsburgh Fish Fry

I was very honored to be personally invited to attend an upcoming fish fry on the North Side, sponsored by Judah Fellowship Christian Church. They are a welcoming congregation and have hosted several events at the Gay and Lesbian Community Center. I hope to see you there!  (PS – they have cornbread – OMG!)  The […]

Ten Things You Can’t Buy With SNAP (Food Stamps)

Personal Care Closet Pittsburgh

  I was terrible in Home Ec (8th grade) because I had little appreciation for how practical the skills would be some day. I regret not being able to sew for sure – how much money can we save if we could even do basic sewing? I also regret not learning more about cooking. I […]

Pittsburgh: Gay-friendly, or “anti gay” friendly?

I am very amused by all of the national (and international) media attention that has tabbed Pittsburgh as a hip, happening city. If we’re so hip and happening, why do we seem to breed crusaders against the “homosexual menace”? There are calls for the CEO of the Mozilla Foundation (developers of the Firefox web browser) […]

Trans Visibility Day

I am barely under the wire with this post, but I want to share this photo from a wknd gathering. T to T is sponsored by TransPride Pittsburgh. I am constantly telling, ahem,  nagging folks at the GLCC to take photos. So not only was I pleased to receive this – I feel it vindicates […]