I’m Not Going To Thank You

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In your imaginary award acceptance speech (yes, we know you have one), who’s the very last — and most important — person you thank? The absolute most boring part of any awards show or event is when someone spits out a laundry list of people to thank. It is one thing to thank your family […]

Review: ‘Finding Vivian Maier: A Documentary’

Warning: this post contains spoilers about plot twists in this documentary. At the Roger Ebert movie review site, a film critic asks one of the moral questions at the heart of this film When does creative ability and the desire to share a true artist’s eye trump what has to be considered an invasion of […]

Allowing Anxiety to Derail Me Is the Worst Case Scenario

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Of all the awful possibilities, what’s the worst possible thing that could happen to you today? Now this is an interesting question during Mental Health Month. Some folks can provide a list of things that cause anxiety and others just have a general sense of dread. Setting aside the loss of a loved one, the […]

Queer Video Vault DVDs now available to rent from Big Idea Bookstore

QUEER VIDEOS. FOR RENT. Sixty-one queer videos are now available for free rental at the Big Idea, your friendly neighborhood radical bookstore and cafe, located at 4812 Liberty Ave in Bloomfield. But what’s in the queer collection, you ask? Well, just visit Queer Video Vault’s website for the full list of DVDs: http://queervideovault.wordpress.com/big-idea-list/. You do have to be […]

Review: The Fosters from ABC Family

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May be spoilerish. You’ve been warned. I’ve been hearing many good things about this show from my friend Dana at Mombian. The story focuses on a lesbian couple that happens to be biracial, Stef and Lena, who are raising a blended family. Their children include Stef’s biological son from her first marriage, Brandon, as well […]

A Queer Saturday Night in Pittsburgh

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S-A-T-U-R-D-A-Y NIGHT! What’s your favorite way to spend Saturday night? Short answer – with Ledcat. We have a flexible agreement that Saturday night is “date night” – we might spend the day in angst or mandatory activity, but barring illness or unavoidable commitment – we try to do something fun on Saturday nights. But having […]

16 Things About Me At 16

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Tell us all about the person you were at sixteen.  I turned 16 in October 1986, my junior year in high school. My father taught me to drive and purchased a second vehicle so I could take my mother places. The deal was that I could use it as much as I wanted as long […]

Ever Wish You Had a Fashionista Godmother?

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Tell us all about your best confidence outfit. Don’t leave out the shoes or the perfect accessories. My life has changed so much over the past few years that this seemingly innocuous question gives me great pause. I’ve regained all the weight I lost when I was critically ill. I work from home so I […]

Dating Disasters That Make Me (Really) Appreciate 10+ Years With Ledcat

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Ah, romance. I think my most amusing first date was with Patrick. We were set up by his sister-in-law. He invited me to go see the Corvette Museum in Bowling Green, KY (I lived in KY at the time.) I thought that was an interesting choice so I agreed. It was a 45 minute drive […]

The Art and Science of Unmaking Friends

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Do you find it easy to make new friends? Tell us how you’ve mastered the art of befriending a new person. The fastest way in the world to shed yourself of a friend is to tell them the truth – the truth about your diagnosis, the truth about your needs and expectations, the truth about […]