The Man Always Wins

Pittsburgh Lesbian

Tell us about a time when you fought authority and took a stand against “the man.” Did you win? I usually do not win. And this is why I blog more about soap operas and less about local politics. I stood up to Dan Onorato for misleading people about his LGBTQ voting record and not […]

Mock: Define yourself before other people do it for you

Define yourself, Janet Mock said Tuesday night, because if you don’t, other people will define you—and they will “chew you up and spit you out.” In a wide-ranging discussion with about 200 students, faculty and community members at Carnegie Mellon University, Mock said her strong sense of self has helped her endure her time in […]

The Art and Science of Unmaking Friends

Pittsburgh friends

Do you find it easy to make new friends? Tell us how you’ve mastered the art of befriending a new person. The fastest way in the world to shed yourself of a friend is to tell them the truth – the truth about your diagnosis, the truth about your needs and expectations, the truth about […]

If You Can’t Afford Tampons, What Do You Do?

Cathy's Closet Sister Supplies

This is a problem that I never thought about until I was 25 years old. While my family had financial struggles, I never lacked the items most women take for granted – pads and tampons. At 25, I met Shirley who gently educated me on the impact of poverty on our womanly ways. I learned […]

Bring me some GLEE

If you’re feeling blah, what is the one thing you do that you can count on to put a smile on your face? Interesting timing, question maker in the sky. I’m feeling blah. My poor elderly kitty isn’t doing so well. I don’t think I’m a very good crowdfundraiser at all. And I can’t seem […]

“Green” Things To Know During Spring Cleaning

Spring cleaning Pittsburgh

I was browsing through the latest post from long-lost-cousin Jolie Kerr’s feature “Ask a Clean Person” on Jezebel when I realized that April is the month she’s designated to deep clean the bathroom. That reminds me of some very important Earth Day type reminders for all you cleaning freaks out there. First, do not dispose […]

Bye Bye Polar Vortex

Pittsburgh Summer

Theoretically, summer will return to the polar-vortex-battered Northern Hemisphere. What are you looking forward to doing this summer? I am looking forward to going swimming in the Pittsburgh CitiPools. By swimming I mean, moving around in the water with Ledcat as we discuss world issues. I like to tread water for exercise, but we don’t […]

10 Things You Can’t Buy With Food Stamps

Food Stamps

My latest piece published on Huffington Post in the “Gay Voices” section …

Fish Fry Review: Church of The Assumption Parish (Bellevue)

Pittsburgh Fish Fry

Random review of #fishburgh adventures during Lent. Find a fish fry on this Google maps collection. You can also follow them on Facebook and find tons of reviews and suggestions. Name: Church of The Assumption  Date: Friday, April 4, 2014 Time We Ate: 5:15 PM Location: Bellevue (45 North Sprague Street) We selected Assumption (as it’s known) based on […]

Please Don’t Call Me A Writer

Pittsburgh Lesbian

I was not a kid who kept a journal or scribbled or longed to be a reporter. I was not a particularly strong writer until I started the graduate program in political philosophy at LSU where I was required to write – constantly. I was also required to read some pretty amazing writing. Somehow that […]