Saturday AM, the Arlen Specter campaign hosted an LGBT reception in Shadyside. Ledcat and I stopped by. We had a delightful conversation with Lt. Governor candidate Jonathan Saidal (read about him here) who is a bright, witty man. Put him in a room with State Senator Daylin Leach and you'd have a pretty erudite room with a lot of laughter.
The event was nice, but not particularly inspiring. Senator Specter is being touted as the only person who can defeat Pat Toomey, but that very morning Sestak took a two point lead in the latest polls.
Two quick points.
First, I need to take a closer look at Sestak which I will do this week. Clearly, others are doing so.
Second, here's where he lost me. A young member of the crowd asked about the repeal of DADT.
He has the endorsement of Liberty City and Steel City so maybe he's being coy, but "some time" sounds far too much like the Administration. Gates is going to block the repeal of DADT in 2010, until far past the mid-term elections. I was HOPING Senator Specter might have something more inspiring to say. We know he's a cosponsor; we need fierce leadership.
Overall the event was nice, but pretty mainstream. Less than 1/3 of the attendees were women so I continue to bemoan that we hand over the power of our commnity ... where were all the women who have issues with Specter and missed the chance to ask him about Clarence Thomas and Alito and so forth? We do ourselves no favor by not showing up.
I can't see you missed much, but the opportunity to create a new dialectic.
Ledcat and I are thrilled to have been invited back to live blog the fantastic "Celebrate Life, Celebrate Art" auction to benefit Persad Center. We had a lot of fun last year. It was an honor to be invited back and this year we'll incorporate live tweeting @PghLesbian24 and @Ledcat. And don't forget to support Persad ... @PersadCenter.
Our good friends from KS Kennedy Floral will have their one of a kind floating table which has become all the rage at the LGBT social events.
I think the logo is lovely. I'd like a print for my office. Someone was asking me to explain what it means to be queer the other day and this image expresses it better than I ever could.
See you Monday. If you attend the event, please stop by our table to say hello. Otherwise, hit us up on Twitter.
This was a lovely little piece to read this morning when I cracked open the Post-Gazette. A mother reflects on her reaction to her daughter's coming out .... not simply on how it made her (mom) feel, but what her (mom's) response meant for her daughter.
The parent of a gay child can lose that child in many ways. Matthew Shepard, a gay man, was beaten to death by homophobes. That's the worst way to lose a child.
But parents who reject their child's sexual orientation will also lose him or her. You don't have to kick your child out of the house and refuse to see her, to lose her. She doesn't have to run away from an unloving home or commit suicide (the suicide rate among gay teens is far higher than among straight ones) for you to lose her.
If you react to your child with shock, rage, disappointment, moral judgment or coldness when she tells you she's gay, she may never bring it up again -- but she won't stop being gay. And she won't tell you who she loves, or what is in her heart, and eventually she'll stop telling you what's real and true in her life.
If she takes your message to heart and hates herself for being gay, she'll lose herself -- and you, too, will have lost her.
Such a simply, disheartening summary of how you can lose your child (and perhaps yourself?) if you reject her coming out. The flipside is the opportunity -- to provide love, refuge, succor, support and a touchstone as you figure this out together.
Kudos to Naomi Weisberg Seigel for a lovely Mother's Day moment.
State Reps. Daryl Metcalfe and Harry Readshaw think Pennsylvania should follow Arizona's lead and "protect its borders and citizens" by giving local and state police more power to arrest, detain and eventually deport foreigners who have entered the state illegally and don't have proper registration papers.
Harry Readshaw? How many undocumented workers are running around the South Hills, for God's sake? The very idea of endowing the Brentwood police with immigration enforcement powers is beyond terrifying.
The Reverend Janet Edwards weighs in on the banning of burquas in a very thoughtful post on how Christian women might feel to have their religious symbols banned.
She previously weighed in on how a covenant relationship with God mirrors the intimacy necessary for a healthy sexuality.
When the Church insists that marriage vows are the exclusive doorway into moral sex, it removes itself from real and crucial discussions about the morality of sex ? in part because a lot of immoral sex, like spouse battering and promiscuity, goes on within marriage, as well.
Janet is a wonderful leader in our community. I admire her willingness to take all sorts of risks for her faith.
The City Paper's own Lauren Daley was front and center at the very first meeting of the Allegheny County Human Relations Commission. Sadly, the 8 AM start meant I had to be at work and could not be part of this historic moment. However, the man called Potter has the scoop over at Slagheap.
Front and center was an issue near and dear to my little heart -- providing domestic partner benefits to employees of Allegheny County. The Chief Executive has asked the HRC for recommendations on this matter.
The commission also asked to receive a report on extending domestic partner benefits to all county employees by its June meeting. Kennedy said her department has been researching the matter and found there could be tax implications for employees.
"It raised more questions than it answered," she told the commission of her research. "There are things we need to look for more information on."
Based on that report, the commission will make a recommendation to Dan Onorato, something the county exec requested, McGough said. Commissioners seemed generally supportive of the idea.
"To me," observed commissioner Sara Davis Buss, "it's the right thing to do."
"I want to get it done right. This is our first big thing and I want to be fast but I want it to be fast, thorough and complete," said commissioner Mark Nowak.
Yes, the tax implication needs to be made very clear to employees who opt in for these benefits. It is grossly unfair and legislation has been repeatedly introduced at the federal level to address this inequity. It would be wonderful for Allegheny County legislators and executives to join the chorus calling for this redress while at the same time addressing the issue locally. I am all for highlighting and addressing this unfair tax burden.
I can speak from experience that the money we spend on the additional taxes (my "partner" benefits are considered taxable income, not a pre-tax benefit) is significant, but offset by the savings of the family benefits. In some cases, the costs don't make it the right decision -- it all depends on how good the benefit package is, after all.
Still, the benefits are a choice. As long as the County makes the tax implications clear, they are doing the best they can to support all families in their employ.
Congratulations to the members of the Human Relations Commission on a successful start. Check out Potter's summary to see what the plan is to address the discrimination complaints. As always, a thorough run down on the issues that often slip under the radar.
You've probably picked up on the fact that I am supporting Joe Hoeffel in the primary race for the PA Governor's manse. I believe his vision and experience will translate into the leadership we need to move ahead as a Commonwealth, My support goes far beyond his solid stance on LGBTQ issues. I like what's he saying about environmental, economic, educational and other issues. I urge you to click on through to read what he has to say on these issues. What strikes me when I visit the page is his consistent connection of a range of issues to improving the economy. For example, Joe "gets" the connection between a vibrant cultural community and economic strength.
You see this argument playing out today as various local leaders call for us to "invest" in the Carnegie Library system. Investment implies a return and we can measure the impact of a cultural institution like a library.
I'm not voting for Joe Hoeffel because I'm a lesbian. I'm voting for him because his vision for Pennsylvania most closely matches mine, both my hopeful vision and my pragmatic expectations.
Others feel differently and the beauty of the primary (as described by the man called Potter) is our freedom to make a choice. Yes, we need to think about the General Election but the slim margin by which Specter maintains his lead over Sestak indicates that Pennsylvania is not opposed to progressive values.
What matters, my friend, is that you make an informed decision on election day, both May and November. Read the questionairres, the endorsements, the editorials, the candidate websites and yes, even the blogs. :-)
I invite you to join local supporters of Joe Hoeffel at an event next Thursday at the Schenley Park Ice Skating Rink. The event is from 5-7 PM and gives you one final chance to meet with Joe in person.
Some say the vote is in the bag for Onorato. I say that your vote for the progressive candidate will have ramifications regardless of the outcome of the election. It does matter and they will pay attention to the support Joe receives.
The important thing is that the choice is yours to make. That's the beauty of being an American citizen. In spite of all the ridiculous things we see in the media each day, you have the opportunity to participate in the electoral process and be part of the solution. Don't lose site of that fact. Your vote matters.
